Hi kittens! I guess you’re wondering what the title means? Have you ever just
associated kittens with subdued purrsonality and being more submissive? In all
honesty, most people do. This is mainly because cats are known to be playful yet very
docile in nature. However, In my case this is untrue. Let’s find out more below!
I get set in my ways and like things a certain way at home and if they aren’t good enough then it gets done again. My partner gets punished and is made to do things if they do something wrong. But it is also about care too. I might threaten them to sit in a corner on a plush rug without their social media or working to have more time with me.
Some dominant types are a lot harsher but I believe in consent as well as making sure my lover is taken care of. Being dominant is really quite odd when I just want to curl up and nap most of the time. So I have to go in between one or the other lol.
The reason this is titled “closet dom” is because not a lot of people know that about me. I am always seen as this cute and sweet kitten due to how I treat people and also my look is quite innocent and sweet as well. But don’t be fooled; kitten can change to a puma very fast given the situation. I think some of it is backed by my somewhat short temper. It is my control so I don’t lose myself to stupid moments and do the wrong thing. Being dominant is very special to me so only the closest to me will know what that is like.
While I like to wear pastels and dress like a harajuku princess, there is a dark side where I like to wear spikes, chains and be more dominant to my partner. There is an aspect of pet play in there too ;) I get a lot of questions about this when people find out so here is the scoop below from the questions I get!
1. What is it like being a dominant cat?
It is very interesting to say the least. I sometimes get confused with what my body wants to do and is capable of lol
2. How did you know you were dom?
I found out literally just by attending some goth/alternative club nights near my area. It was here I met like minded people and then found out about my dominant side. They helped bring out the alt girl in me and it goes hand in hand.
3. How do you know when you switch?
I will tend to listen to more alternative music such as Nine inch nails, Marilyn manson, Korn, Rob zombie and so on. My mood will usually align with how I am feeling. To get an idea, I generally listen to K-pop when I am less dominant and watch idol shows lol.
4. How do you take care of your pet?
I take care of them by treating them with gifts, making sure I do sufficient after care and make sure they know they’re adored and loved every day.
5. Do you have any tips for other doms?
Don’t be afraid to experiment (safely). Look up some hints and tips online as well as ask friends for advice. We don’t know what we are capable of or our strengths and weaknesses until we try them. We also have limits to things we will and won’t do. This definitely helps if you are having a pet/ submissive in your control. Just as they have boundaries, so should you. This helps set the tone of the relationship and creates trust.
And this ends the article! Thanks so much for letting me do this, and if you have any questions please drop them below! ARIGATO!