Today I want to talk about collaring and it means to me and my fiancé! He and I have been together for about four and a half years! We were high school sweethearts and are now renting our first apartment together! I started delving into my pet side and the headspace a few months after my 18th birthday and shortly after I proposed to him.
Collaring doesn’t have to be this big ceremony and you really don’t have to dress up special in anyway. If you and your significant other want it to be that way then it can! It’s all up to you and your partner! For my fiancé and I, it was building a collar together on Etsy and when it arrived at my doorstep, he was the first to put it on me. We were both still in our pajamas.
A big stigma behind collaring is that you have to have this long, in-depth contract. Which, in reality, that isn’t always true. Collaring for me was just him accepting me as a pet and the person I am.
Do we have rules? Yes, absolutely. Are they strict? Not at all. And that’s how our relationship works. Some people want a contract, exchanging of something along the lines of vows, and a big ceremony. I will never knock someone for that.
For some, their collaring collar is big and expensive, for others it could be something as simple as a necklace, bracelet, or ring. My collar is one that we built together on Etsy. It has a black, pleated base, white center ribbon, white lace, black roses, white bow with black center ribbon, and silver hardware. I only ever wear it for special occasions, or if I’m feeling very deep in headspace. I’m so afraid of getting it dirty or soiling it somehow that I don’t wear it often. Some people wear their collaring collars daily though and that’s perfectly fine!
While collaring is a big deal and it should be taken seriously, it doesn’t have to be overwhelming, expensive, or extravagant. If you think you’re ready to be collared or to collar someone, bring it up with them. Talk to them about the commitment and see if you’re both ready. If you’re ever worried or have doubts, talk to your partner, see where they’re at, and explain your feelings.
Thanks for reading, loves!